Simply put, we are not always going to agree.
Please, take this as someone who was nicknamed “The Scary DBA” for reasons comic and tragic. I’ve screwed up a bunch of stuff in my career. Yes, some of it was through ignorance of technology. However, most of it was through badly managed interpersonal relationships.
I was not always kind. I was not always empathetic. I caused problems on teams sometimes that were just unnecessary.
If I had just thought things through, a little, and practiced more kindness, I’d have had a much nicer time of it and influenced people in a more positive way.
Now, I read this post by Jennifer Jones.
I wanted to get angry at people for not treating her well. But all I could think about were my own shortcomings. The times I missed out on being appropriately kind.
So, I’m telling you now, don’t be me. Don’t look back with regret. Look forward with kindness. Treat those around you with kindness. Our community will be better for it. You’ll be better for it.